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Friday, July 21, 2006

A series of unfortunate events

People may fail many times, but they become failures only when they begin to blame someone else. I'm not blaming the jerks I've been out with in the past. I got conned because I was quite gullible at times. Memang pantang kena ayat lebih-lebih sikit!

But hey, you know what, I think there are silver linings behind the series of unfortunate events in my life in the last couple of years. I failed many times in my love relationships.

But I don't consider myself a failure, nor do I blame the men or the other women. I call it "teething pains" that were necessary as a pivotal part of my growing up and wisening up. C'est la vie! as the French says it.

As one of my favorite poets, Ralph Waldo Emerson puts it, "The greatest glory in living lies not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall."

I share the sentiments of a holocaust camp prisoner Anne Frank who wrote in her diary, "Think of all the beauty still left around you and be happy."

In restropect, my failures make me learn about life and love the hard way and make me wiser in my future choices. Because I failed in my love relationships, I know what I don't want in a man.

As a result, better decision on my part. Some people do it right the first time around, but not everybody does - that is why there are such things as second chances.


  • i like the pic with no smoking tu.. cool eh?
    on unfortunate events... i always think that things happen for reason.. so, i try to check within me... may be God is telling me something? And I always think that whatever yang unfortunate tu, there is always something better in the future...

    By Anonymous nadialoretta, at Sun Jul 23, 12:18:00 AM 2006  

  • What you love to love
    is not what you got to love
    what you got to love is
    not what you had loved to love
    the love, you love now
    is not what the love you
    really loved
    but get to love
    what you got to love now

    By Blogger Azer Mantessa, at Sun Jul 23, 03:16:00 PM 2006  

  • its very true kan..but u have a good life liza. u shdnt be sad or watever and i dun think u are

    By Anonymous Anonymous, at Mon Jul 24, 09:15:00 AM 2006  

  • Liza,
    well said liza. I keep telling myself it's okay to make mistakes in life but not to do it over and over again! Well, I'm human after all. Take care.

    Azer mantessa,
    What you wrote is pretty confusing :-P

    By Blogger Nour, at Mon Jul 24, 09:27:00 AM 2006  

  • akum..kucing dah baca blog tikus pasal bad boy. bleh tahan gak cite nyerrrrrr. tak sangka...

    kucing ingat tikus nie bijak tapi rupa2 nyer mangkuk ayun gak. kah kah kah!

    no wonder tak nak kawan dgn kucing selama nie. rupa2nya dah ada orang lain. tapi kadang2 bad boy tu betul gak buat mcm tu pada org macam tikus.

    padan muka! ada yg menghargai dan menyayangi tikus, tikus wat macam sampah je.

    tapi bila dapat bapak penipu, abis duit tikus dah serahkan. yes, keep making mistake, and sure u'll be perfect...

    ok2...i dont have the right to say that. i'm sorry...

    oklah. tikus jaga diri. jaga2 dgn kawan2 sekeliling.jgn lagi terkene macam tu. kucing jadi sedih...

    baiklah tikus. kucing doakan tikus hepi selalu. kalu ada per2 tikus tahu mana nak cari kucing.

    just want tikus to know. kucing sayang tikus selama nie. tapi kalu kucing jer yg menungu,tikus wat tak reti jer. baik kucing bawa diri jer...

    mungkin org lain lagi layak bleh kwn dgn tikus. kucing hanya kucing kampong yg tak sama dgn tikus bandar serba terpelajar...

    bye2. akum.

    By Anonymous Anonymous, at Mon Jul 24, 07:30:00 PM 2006  

  • nadia, hehe that community message is brought to you by nel. that's right, we should notlook at any of our misfortunes as a bad thing la, it's contributing to our learning curve and somehow make us better.

    azer mantessa, like nour, me am confused ler...do elaborate :)

    anonymous, yeah overall i'd say i have a good life. shit do happens but it's how you manage it and learn from it that really counts.

    betul tu nour, mistakes contribute to our learning curve! experience is always the best teacher :)

    kucing, i'm speechless but thanks anyways for whatever reason and i'm sorry that we have differing expectations of each other. you can't force things like feelings you know. but yes i am still your friend if you will have me as one.

    By Blogger Nel, at Mon Jul 24, 07:39:00 PM 2006  

  • hi naliza,

    Just wanna quote a few lines from that lee ann rhimes (did i spell her name right here?) song entitled "Life Goes On":

    "Shame on you if you fool me once;
    Shame on me if you fool me twice."

    Semua orang buat mistake (myself included), but the most important thing is that we learn something from it.

    Orang baik macam u kena berhati2, coz ada je manusia2 hampeh yg akan cuba ambil kesempatan. So be careful next time ya, dear... Take care!

    By Blogger miss elly, at Tue Jul 25, 01:12:00 PM 2006  

  • 1. If u read it all at once, u not gonna get it.
    2.If u read it line by line, u not gonna get it too.
    3.Notice the perfect tenses (lam English, perfect tenses depa sebenarknya tak perfect… hehehe)

    What you love to love
    is not what you got to love
    - There are times where what we really want is not what we really get.

    what you got to love is
    not what you had loved to love
    - Do not hurry urself into love.

    the love, you love now
    is not what the love you
    really loved
    - Also what we think we love is not really what we wanna love.

    but get to love
    what you got to love now
    - Cherish the moment with what God is given to us at present. If we are truly grateful, God finally may give us what we really want to love.

    Conclusion: Only God knows what is good to us better than we ourselves know what is good for us :-)

    PS. Do not try to absorb everything I say because I myself don’t know much. Only God knows everything :-)

    By Blogger Azer Mantessa, at Tue Jul 25, 02:50:00 PM 2006  

  • thanks for the info on yr entry on baby!

    By Anonymous Nur, at Sat Aug 05, 09:30:00 AM 2006  

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